February 14, 2006
Expatriation Coaching - What does that mean?
One of the topics that I am fascinated with is the cross-cultural
adjustment process. As an Austrian immigrant in Canada I know that
even a move from a Western European country like Austria to a modern
developed nation such as Canada can entail a significant adjustment
process. My acculturation phase took me about 4 years, and I had
quite some bumps in the road getting adjusted to my new home country.
There is a whole continuum of cross-cultural experiences, from
being a tourist in an all- inclusive resort with little exposure
to the local culture, to becoming a "traveller" - a person
who actually takes an interest in the foreign culture and explores
it, to immersing yourself for a limited time in the local culture
through language study travel, voluntourism, or foreign work or
study assignments.
The most extreme cross-cultural encounters are created when one
decides to leave one's home culture behind to relocate full-time
to another country. That's when issues of culture clash and adjustment
become most predominant.
Over the last few weeks I have been doing a search on the Internet
for experts who are familiar with this type of topic to provide
some insight into the process of relocation and acculturation in
a foreign country. I found David Rhodes, owner of
"I want to change my life", who is an "expatriation
coach", literally an individual who helps people who want to
pull up their stakes and move full-time to another culture.
Here are his insights:
1. Please tell us about yourself and your background.
I’m British, aged 43, and have lived in the UK all my life.
My career background is varied, being self-employed since 1991 running
a number of businesses. I became an accredited life coach with the
UK College of Life Coaching in 2004.
2. How did you become an expert on expatriation and migration?
What is "expatriation coaching" and what does it entail?
People sometimes question how, if I have never emigrated myself,
how I am qualified to help them. There is plenty of “how to”
books on the market on relocating, however the advice given is based
on what was right for the author.
To be able to coach someone, you don’t actually need to know
anything about the subject you are coaching about. Coaching is basically
helping the client reach a decision that is best for them, and it’s
a very specialised skill.
Rather than say I am an expert in expatriation, as this can be
misleading I would say that I specialise in the area of helping
people decide whether emigrating is the right thing for them and
then help them plan and execute their plans to maximise their chance
of success.
But I have an understanding regarding the important issues around
relocating.
I do this via telephone conversations using my own unique and bespoke
programs as a guideline.
3. Who are some of the people that come to you for advice
and why? What makes emigration an attractive option to some people?
I would say that the vast majority of people who contact me don’t
really understand what I do. So I get enquiries that would be better
aimed at migration specialists about whether they would be eligible
to migrate to a particular country.
My services are based around the premise to investigate not whether
they legally can emigrate, but whether this decision would improve
their lives.
Emigration is attractive to people because they think that they
will improve their lives, they are unhappy where they are so they
think that moving countries will solve that. It won’t necessarily,
explained further under the “wheel of life” question.
4. Please comment on some of the favourite places that are
commonly considered destinations for emigration.
There are the main countries, Australia, USA, New Zealand, South
Africa, Spain, and Canada. And of course for people not living in
the UK, Britain itself.
Generally however people have a dream about living in a hotter
climate.
5. Please give us some practical examples of some of the
stories of emigration and expatriate living that you have witnessed.
Angela is 35, she moved from New Zealand to the UK on a relatives
visa, her grandmother was British. After initially moving to London,
which by far the vast majority of migrants to the UK do, she wanted
a better quality lifestyle. (London is not right for everyone).
So she moved to Somerset where she is currently living with her
2-year-old son, who was born in this country. She is now totally
settled, and when the opportunity arose to return to New Zealand
as a result of a relationship breakdown she decided to stay and
build another life in the UK.
On the other side there are numerous examples of British people
who move to the Costa deal Sol, Spain, buy a not very profitable
business, usually a bar, lose money and end up returning to the
UK ruined financially.
6. What are some of the key factors involved in deciding
on whether to emigrate? What are the potential benefits, what are
the risks?
Whether you would have enough money in a new life is a key factor,
especially if you have to establish a business or get a job. Being
able to speak the language is central. Making new friends quickly
is very important, as is the decision as to whether you would miss
your family and current friends.
In fact if you look at the wheel of life each of these sections
are key factors, for most people.
7. Please comment on the process of adjustment to a new
life and on reaching one's settlement goals.
During the first few weeks in a new country most individuals are
fascinated by the new. They stay in hotels and associate with nationals
who speak their language and are polite and gracious to foreigners.
This honeymoon stage may last from a few days or weeks to six months
depending on circumstances.
Perhaps then you might encounter culture shock, and become hostile
to your new country.
In the final stage of adjustment you will accept the customs of
the country as just another way of living. You can operate without
a feeling of anxiety although there are moments of strain. Only
with a complete grasp of all the cues of social intercourse will
this strain disappear.
For a long time you will understand what the national is saying,
but you are not always sure what the national means. With a complete
adjustment you not only accept the foods, drinks, habits, and customs
but also actually begin to enjoy them.
When you go back “home” you may even take things back
with you and if you leave for good you generally miss the country
and the people to whom you have become accustomed.
8. In your coaching program you use an exercise called
the "Wheel of Life". Please tell us more about that.
The wheel of life is a tool used by a lot of life coaches; it shows
on paper how happy the client is with each aspect of their life,
their Career, Friends and Family, Fun, Health, Finances and Relationships.
By scoring from 1-10 each aspect of their life they can see on paper
what aspect of their life they need to work on to make them have
a more fulfilling life.
You tend to find that clients who want to emigrate will grade themselves
low in most sections, but when you ask them what the wheel will
look like when they emigrate they grade themselves much higher.
However, a lot of people who emigrate without fully investigating
their move first, find that there is a reality gap, and that they
did not for example realise how important Friends and Family were
to them before they left. Or their job or business didn’t
turn out to be as great as they thought.
9. Please comment on some of the practical issues involved
in emigrating, e.g. jobs, housing, schooling, legal and insurance
matters, etc, and how to deal with them.
I’m not really qualified to comment on these factors apart
from the fact that I ask the client to consider these aspects and
where they would obtain the answers to them.
10. Please comment on some of the psychological factors
involved in emigrating, e.g. culture shock, language and cultural
hurdles, isolation from loved ones, etc and how to deal with them.
Culture shock is caused by the anxiety that results from
losing all familiar signs that you have been previously been used
to seeing.
Perhaps the “rules” in a country such as Tibet can be
seen to be different. But what you may not understand is that other
countries that seem the same, such as Australia or New Zealand do
have completely different rules.
When you emigrate you enter a strange culture, where some or all
of the familiar cues are removed. You may therefore feel like a
fish out of water. A feeling of frustration and anxiety follows
this. People react to the frustration in much the same way. First
they reject the environment that caused the discomfort: "the
ways of the country are bad because they make us feel bad”.
Another phase of culture shock is regression. “Home”
suddenly assumes a great importance, everything becomes glorified,
all previous difficulties and problems are forgotten and only the
good things back home are remembered. It usually takes a trip home
to bring you back to reality.
You can suffer culture shock in your own country from having to
associate with different people from differing backgrounds, multiply
that feeling and you might have an understanding of feelings of
culture shock whilst abroad.
11. Please comment on some of the common mistakes people
make when emigrating.
People basically are blinkered; think that just by moving then
their life will be better. Furthermore they do not seek help, mainly
because they don’t want to think that their dream is in fact
not right for them. So they take a leap of faith.
Provided that people are aware of the potential pitfalls, and are
able to plan and accept that everything will not always be hunky
dory then they are more likely to be successful.
12. What are some of the key factors involved in "creating
a life you love"?
The basic key factor is to create a life for yourself that is in
line with your values. For example, if you value freedom and create
a life for yourself so that the freedom you crave is absent then
you will not be happy. On the other hand if security is a value
you treasure then moving abroad without a plan will also make you
unhappy.
You must also have goals, regardless of whether you intend to emigrate
or not. Goals lead to personal satisfaction when you achieve them,
and also provide a marker to indicate that your life is improving
and you are closer to creating a life you love.
Thank you, David, for sharing your knowledge on the topic of expatration
coaching and the critical decision as to whether to move abroad
or stay put.
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